Random thought as I leave the gym this morning

Do you ever hold the door open for somebody just to see if they will say “Thank You”?  Holding the door for someone is an easy and kind gesture; one that can momentarily label you as thoughtful or rude depending on your action.  I’ll admit, I wait for the thank you.  That’s not to say that I would ever opt out of holding the door, but I am mindful of the automatic response that goes along and will form a harsh judgment if not received.

 

Why is that?  Why would I perform a nice gesture only to expect recognition for it?  Isn't it enough that I did something for someone else?  My heart says "yes!" but sadly my mind has not reached that level of maturity.  I love the unexpected politeness and help from an anonymous someone.  I am quick to give praise in front of others for something another person has done without expectation and will brag about their thoughtfulness even in anonymity.  My faith tells me that I will feel all the joy I need from doing a good deed without knowledge of anyone else.  Honestly I require no other validation than that of my Father.  Isn't He the only one responsible for judgment?

 

Maybe for me it goes back to my childhood and my need for validation that I did a good deed or made a right choice.  You will laugh when I say there is a part of me that is a people pleaser and I want others to have a good opinion of me.  That certainly doesn't come across, but it's there deep inside.  I know my need for recognition isn't one of my more attractive qualities and it's definitely an area that needs improvement. 

 

I heard one of the sons of Mario Batali on "The Chew" a few weeks back and he had given his boys some great advice that is applicable here: he taught them to always do extra credit.  I loved this and found it relevant in life as well as in school.  If given the opportunity to do something, anything, always see if there is a little extra you can be doing.  For you never know who could be watching.